What Not To Say To Someone With OCD

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If a friend or family member has obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), you probably want to do whatever you can to help them. But if you’ve never dealt with this disorder yourself, you might have a hard time figuring out what to say. Your goal should be to empathize with them and offer support, so with that in mind, you’ll want to avoid using these phrases:

  • “Relax” – OCD causes someone to have recurring, unwanted thoughts and urges (obsessions) and/or repeatedly perform certain actions (compulsions). Even if your loved one’s concerns seem unfounded or don’t make sense to you, you must remember they can’t help it, and that you don’t tell them to calm down or simply stop worrying. Doing so could leave them feeling invalidated and wondering whether you actually understand what they’re going through.
  • “I’m so OCD” – Many people believe that OCD simply causes one to be tidy or particular about how things are organized, but it’s much more than that. If you’ve actually been diagnosed with OCD, it could be incredibly helpful for you to share your experiences with your loved one. But if you’ve never received a formal diagnosis, avoid labeling relatively normal behaviors as “OCD,” since doing so can minimize the disorder.
  • “I thought you were over that.” – Unfortunately, there’s currently no cure for OCD, although there are many treatment options available that can help manage the condition. Your loved one’s symptoms may appear to have improved, but be sure to remember that OCD is a chronic disorder that they may need to work at for the rest of their life.

The Team to Choose for OCD Treatment

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Mindy Werner-Crohn, M.D.

Dr. Mindy Werner-Crohn is a Harvard and UCSF Medical School graduate, board-certified psychiatrist with over 30 years of experience, including adult residency at UCSF’s Langley-Porter Institute and a child and adolescent fellowship through Napa State Hospital and Oakland Children’s Hospital.

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Shira Crohn, PA-C.

Shira Crohn is a board-certified Physician Assistant specializing in psychiatric care, trained at the New York Institute of Technology, who provides thoughtful, individualized medication management for conditions including depression, anxiety, PTSD, ADHD, OCD, bipolar disorder, and insomnia.

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Joel Crohn, Ph.D.

Joel Crohn, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist (PSY5735), trained at UC Berkeley and the Wright Institute, who specializes in couples and family therapy and brings over 30 years of experience in cross-cultural issues, research, and teaching, including prior faculty work at UCLA School of Medicine.